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10 Red Flags In Dating Relationships
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Dating - Really Talking with Your Mate
Talking to Your Spouse
One of the major problems in relationships is that we stop
talking or communicating with our spouse or mate. If you find
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Reasons For Trying A Online Dating Service
Tired of the same old people at the same old places? Or worse, tired of the lack of any people anywhere? Do you think if you hear Aunt Jane say one more time that she has someone she wants to introduce you to you'll scream? Are you ready to catch...
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Dating Tip: Getting the Commitment
A lot of women want to know how to get a man to commit.
Even though we know better, we still believe (consciously or
subconsciously) that our purpose in life is to get a man to fork
over a two-carat diamond and a house in the suburbs. At the dawn
of 2006, this is still perceived as the pinnacle of success for
women.
As a result, too many of us stay in relationships that don't
make us happy. We tell ourselves that if we say the right thing,
do the right thing, buy the right thing, we can get some guy to
marry us and validate us in the eyes of our friends, our
parents, and society.
We play games with our sexuality. We submit to unnecessary
surgeries and wear clothing that make us candidates for
pneumonia, all in an effort to hook a man. We have sex not
because it's what we want, but because we want to keep a guy's
interest. We stop having sex when he doesn't come forth with a
ring because, as our mothers told us, "Why buy the cow when the
milk's free?"
And, in the end, it usually doesn't work. We don't get the
commitment. We wonder why, deep down inside, we are ultimately
unlovable.
The reason for it is simple. We don't love ourselves. Heck, we
don't even own ourselves. We dress, act, speak, and have sex to
please (or manipulate) others. The fact that, at the tail end of
2005, we still use expressions like, "Why buy the cow when the
milk's free," is astonishing.
You are not a cow. You are a woman. You will attract a man who
will gladly, eagerly commit to you when you start believing that
you have a bigger purpose in
life than getting married.
This means you:
Dress for yourself, not for someone else.
Stop postponing doing things you want to do because you
think you need a guy to do them with (or that you have to "check
with" your boyfriend first).
Stop waiting for some guy to commit to you. If he says
he's not ready, do yourself a favor and back off. Stop being
taken for granted. Make plans that don't include him (this will
do one of two things; either he'll realize he can't live without
you, or you'll realize he definitely can).
Have sex when it's right and because you enjoy it. Don't
use (or not use) your body to "get" a man.
In other words, get a life. Love yourself. Treat yourself as a
treasure that has yet to be discovered.
There are plenty of tricks you can use to hook a man, but they
usually involve manipulation, deceit, and the loss of yourself.
And, while they usually don't work, it's worse when they do.
Women who used them tend to be divorced or miserably married
today.
So, make a commitment to yourself. Be true to yourself. Value
yourself. You will send a signal to men that you are special,
different, and worth their time and effort.
One of those men will prove to be worth your time and effort,
too.
About the author:
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and
Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for free dating tips at
http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at
http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com
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